What Really Attracts Women?
What really attracts women is a man who presents himself well, shows interest in what she has to say, makes her laugh and is a pleasure to be around. You want to stimulate her interest in you and keep her coming back for more. The art of attraction is the art of making yourself interesting to a woman.
Every man can do the things listed below, no matter what your natural talents are. Every man can do the things below and still "be himself". When you want to attract a woman, find the most positive traits in you and enhance those traits.
Don't show the negative, pessimistic, ill-mannered, selfish part of yourself. Don't be stinky, messy or sarcastic. Don't talk about the bad things in life, and especially in your life.
How to Attract Women
If you have a tendency to do any of these things, don't do it when you're trying to attract women you like. You'll have the tendency to fall into a comfort zone, so practice the things below, until the become your comfort zone. Learning how to attract women is all about self-improvement.
Look Your Best
Taking pride in your appearance and looking your best never hurts. You might think it's shallow to say that a woman is going to be attracted to your appearance, but all people, men and women, are the same.
Think about it: this is your first impression of anyone you meet. This is the first information you have to go on, assuming no one has told you a thing about this person. When a woman sees your appearance, she's naturally going to assess a few things about you.
A man who dresses smartly, has styled hair and smells nice is going to send the message that you are conscientious, you have good taste and you take care of business. The other choice is to send the signal that you're careless, you have bad taste and you're too lazy to care.
So looking your best is a no-brainer.
Smell Nice
If she gets near you, you don't want her smelling something awful. Bath, use deodorant always, and wear a fresh, masculine cologne. Women are sensual and you want to appeal to all her senses, including the sense of smell.
Be Memorable
The last thing you want is to blend into the surroundings. You're not going to attract a woman, if you don't attract her attention in the first place.
Say or do something that focuses her attention on you. This is like the child who is starving for attention. It's better to get attention for positive things, but something outrageous is not necessarily bad - in the right circumstances.
Have you ever worn the most outrageous costume to a Halloween Party? If not, have you ever noticed that the person wearing the most outrageous costume has people around them all night? Standing out can be a natural ice-breaker and conversation starter.
Also, people make natural assumptions about you, based on a willingness to wear a crazy or funny costume. It shows you have confidence. It shows you like to have a good time. It shows you don't mind standing out among the crowd and making a statement.
So wear something stylish, but wear something that gets comments. This can be a nice cologne, a really sharp set of clothing, driving the shiniest or fastest car, riding a motorcycle, or even having the biggest smile in the room. This works for males in the animal kingdom, like the bird with the brightest colored feathers; why shouldn't it work for you.
Use Body Language - Flirt
Flirt with a woman and use body language to send signals. Body language that shows you're interested includes smiles, looks (not stares), subtle smiles when she returns your glance, facing your body to her, leaning in when you talk to her, maybe even a gentle touch on the elbow or arm when you talk to her.
Notice her body language when you do these things. If you're getting negative signals back from her, pull back on the body language. That is, if the smiles and lean-ins aren't working, you're being creepy by establishing body contact. There's a right time and a wrong time to do anything, and no one move is going to be appropriate for each woman. That's why attracting women is an art, not a science.
Heap Attention on Her
Sell out when you flirt with a woman. Don't let distractions distract you. Focus all your attention on her. Make her the center of the world.
This shows you have confidence and that she is the target of your attentions. It shows confidence in yourself. And it's flattering to her, because people tend to enjoy being given attention. You're appealing to her vanity.
If she isn't into you, you'll figure out somewhere along the way. Even if she's not into you, look at this as practice for the next woman you meet, a woman who might be into you. Be playful and keep it breezy.
Be a Good Conversationalist
This shouldn't be a one-man performance. Listen to her and respond to what she has to say. Being a good conversationalist isn't all about being witty and funny and well-read and knowing a lot of stuff. But having a conversation is two-way and interactive, so you need to include what she says in your talk.
Besides, people are going to be more interested in talking about their interests, than in talking about your interests. Show that you listen and you're interested in her by talking intelligently about what she's interested in. When in doubt, ask an informed or intelligent question about her interests.
A woman talking about herself, unless she's really shy or self-conscious, is naturally going to come away from your dialogue thinking you're a good talker.
This doesn't mean being a "yes man" or agreeing with everything she has to say. In fact, you don't want to simply agree with everything she says; that's no challenge. But however you reply, be thoughtful and considerate. Don't talk over her and give her time to state her thoughts and opinions.
Be Conscientious
This means being honest, being on time, doing what you say your going to do. If you make promises and don't keep them, you seem like a jerk. In truth, women don't like jerks. They want a man to be a challenge, but to challenge them in stimulating, life-affirming ways. Not doing what you say you're going to do is a big drain.
Be a joy to be around. Give her pleasure, not grief. Be a positive experience, someone that's stimulating and attractive.
Be Funny
Towards that end, being funny and knowing how to laugh doesn't hurt. Shared jokes and in-jokes are great. Finding humor in the world around you is good. Being sarcastic, negative and over-critical of others is not as good.
When you know how to make her laugh, she's naturally going to want to spend time around you. See that she has a good time and she'll want more.
Preserve the Mystery
Leave a little something to the imagination. Don't tell her your life story immediately. Don't "get all serious" and tell her your problems and worries and fears. This gives her nothing to come back for, because she already knows everything about you. Also, it's a huge downer.
So give her a sense of who you are, but don't lay it all on the line immediately. Attraction isn't about this moment. It's about the future, too. You want her wondering about you and trying to figure you out. This is the kind of challenge you want to present to her.
Be Yourself
This might sound crazy at the end of a long list of things to do to impress women, to tell you to be yourself. But this is about enhancing your natural traits, skills and charms. Attracting a woman is about self-improvement and becoming the an attractive person. There's nothing listed above you can't do, if you put your mind to it and practice your skills.
Maybe you aren't good at some of the things above - right now. The only way to get better is to strive for improvement. It might be painful at first, but you'll get better as you keep trying - I promise.
Reread our list and ask yourself if there's anything that any guy can't do. What really attracts women are attractive men. If you aren't necessarily that attractive to them at the moment, you can get better. If you are attractive to women right now, you can get better.